Battle of the Sexes

Mr. and I got into an argument. Well not really an argument, more like a heated discussion. Let me back up.

My mother has always been an excellent judge of character. I believe that is one of the things I inherited from her. She taught me to trust my gut instinct from a young age and so far it has done me well.

Mr.'s best friend has a girl he has been dating for several months now. I dont trust her. Yes, I have more proof than just my gut instinct. No, I won't go into it; but believe me, its enough.

Anyway, the discussion was based on the fact that I dont want to spend too much time with this girl. He "tolerates" her for his best friend. I am cordial. Mr. says it is just because I have a hard time getting along with women. (True, but getting along with someone and trusting them are two separate issues... I will get into that in a minute.) I really do not trust her. The fact that Mr. "tolerates" this girl says a lot. He is the type of man who will speak his mind and tell you like it is. That is one of the things I love about him, his honesty. Finally we just agreed to disagree and left it at that.

Now, I have always gotten along with the male species easier than the females. I have always had more guy friends than girl friends. Now, there are a lot of girls who say that. But what they really mean is: "I have a lot of guy friends to go along with the plethora of girl friends that I have." Not so in my case.

Guys make more sense to me. They just do. The drama girls and the girly girls and the gossip girls tend to (not always) annoy me. And confuse me (99% of the time). Most, not all, of the female friends I have are tomboys. I, myself, am not a tomboy. I realize this does not make any sense. I do. I have issues, obviously. I fully recognize this fact, and am working on it.

Let me tell you about one of the things that confuse me. Say you tell a guy friend "I'm running low on money and my car just broke down." That guy friend will probably say somthing along the lines of "Yeah I hear you. I can't wait for payday. I need new tires, too. Sucks." A female friend turns it into a competition: "I've got to pay my credit card bill and my cell phone bill and... and... and...." Yeah, that sucks too. I'm not trying to compete with you. I just wanted someone to talk to. One is not better than the other. They suck equally. You want an award? Fine, I'll print a certificate for you as long as you listen to what I have to say once in a while.

This is just one example of something that baffles me. It is very likely that is just a case of miscommunication and misunderstanding. As is the case with many, many things.

Mr. says "You think too much, thats your problem."
See, I told you. He gets right to the point.